Sonnet 43

May. 1st, 2010 01:00 am
mcgillianaire: (Taj Mahal)
When most I wink, then do mine eyes best see,
For all the day they view things unrespected;
But when I sleep, in dreams they look on thee,
And darkly bright, are bright in dark directed.
Then thou, whose shadow shadows doth make bright,
How would thy shadow's form form happy show
To the clear day with thy much clearer light,
When to unseeing eyes thy shade shines so!
How would, I say, mine eyes be blessed made
By looking on thee in the living day,
When in dead night thy fair imperfect shade
Through heavy sleep on sightless eyes doth stay!
All days are nights to see till I see thee,
And nights bright days when dreams do show thee me.
mcgillianaire: (Statue of Liberty)
So thanks to my sister's nagging (yay!), my dad's agreed to take me along with them to Boston this Fall! It'll be my first trip to Boston and my first trip to North America since December 2006! We'll be together for a week, helping my sister set up her new home in Providence (where she studies) and then spending the weekend in Cape Cod/Martha's Vineyard. A week after our arrival, my dad returns to Oman and my sister will be busy with uni. So if all goes to plan, I'll hopefully be joined in NYC by my best mates from uni. I haven't been to NYC (properly) since 1992 and I haven't seen most of my best mates since 2006, so it'll be an incredibly awesome reunion (fingers crossed!). As you can imagine, I'm extremely excited about this. And what's more? The US Open will be entering its final stages, so hopefully I can catch some of that action too! And Boston, my sister's and dad's favourite city in America. It's gonna be mega! Wow, I simply cannae wait! :D
mcgillianaire: (Golden Gate Bridge)

The last time we celebrated my mum's birthday as a family, and a special occasion it was - her 50th! (10 June 2008, Muscat)

On the night of 9th April, my sister and her team of volunteers will camp overnight and take turns walking around the American Cancer Society's Relay for Life track to raise money, awareness and save more lives from cancer. It would be nice if you could make a donation towards their cause and the still larger cause of a cancer-free world! Thanks a lot for all your support, both before and after her death. :)
mcgillianaire: (Default)
Saturday 27 March marked exactly thirty years to the day since my dad first arrived in London, leaving behind everything he had grown up with in India. He was 27 and it was his first-ever flight. Thai Airways from Delhi to Heathrow. Long side-burns and bell-bottoms were still in vogue in South India. This post is dedicated to my dad, whose move changed the course of Ramanathan history. The year is 1980. Enjoy!

My dad never wanted to leave India, even though many of his med school mates had already emigrated to America and Britain. After completing his postgraduate Master of Surgery (MS) degree in Chennai (Madras) in the late 1970s, his plan was to return to his ancestral town of Erode and spend at least five years at its primary health centre. It seemed a simple enough plan, even if it lacked ambition. My dad was/is an idealist. Besides, his father had been in poor health for a few years so he felt it was his duty to support him. So after completing his MS in General Surgery my dad returned to Erode and applied to work at its General Hospital. Rather surprisingly, there were no available jobs. And after my grandfather's health deteriorated in the summer of 1979, my dad was not keen to move back to Chennai. And even if he did, his previous work experiences there promised poor remuneration. As a result, my grandfather encouraged my dad to try his luck abroad and so he applied for the Professional & Linguistic Assessment Board (PLAB) test, that is the compulsory procedure for overseas doctors to practice in the UK. Sadly however, on 4 November of the same year, my grandfather passed away at the age of only 54. With two degrees, no job and a family to look after, my dad was a confused young man. Should he stay in India or head abroad?

Shortly after my grandfather's death my dad received confirmation of his PLAB test date, but postponed it in light of the family tragedy. Sometime later a letter arrived confirming a rescheduled date to complete the test in April 1980. My dad was not keen to leave my grandmother on her own so he didn't act upon the letter. Then during a visit by my great-uncle (grandfather's brother), he happened to see the letter and asked my dad about it. My dad explained why he wasn't keen to go, a view my grandmother and many other family members concurred with, but my great-uncle felt otherwise. He thought it was too good an opportunity for my dad to forego. The elders were worried about how the temptations of the Wild West would have a corrosive influence on him. Thankfully in the end, sense prevailed.

A lot of preparation was necessary. This was the first-time my dad would be travelling abroad and his first-time on an aeroplane. Since he couldn't afford the flight ticket and visa, he borrowed the money from his cousin in Bombay. A college mate that had already emigrated to America arranged some pounds sterling for my dad. In those days, India had very strict controls on foreign currency exchange and the amount of foreign currency that you could travel with abroad. Another college mate sorted out the brief stay and travel arrangements in Delhi. It was a team effort. And after completing all the requisite religious pilgrimages, finally the big day arrived. A couple days before his flight to London, the entire extended family saw my dad off at Erode Railway Station in grand style. My dad was to become (in all probability) the first person in his caste community to travel abroad, and possibly even aboard an aircraft. He was already making history.

The layover in Delhi was short and the people who looked after him were very nice, although they did drop him off at the airport several hours before his flight because they didn't want to travel back home in the dark! It was all a new and surreal experience for my dad so he didn't really mind. Besides, this wasn't the first time he was leaving his family. At the tender age of five and a half, my grandfather enrolled my dad into one of India's prestigious British-era boarding schools, several hundred kilometres away from home in Erode, and where he remained until his graduation at the age of fifteen. My dad joined Lawrence School, Lovedale in the year of its centenary celebrations.

His first love was Mathematics and he even aspired to study Engineering at an Indian Institute of Technology (IIT). In fact, within a month of joining the boarding school, he was promptly promoted to the next class due to his aptitude in Math, though it was delayed by another month due to his weakness in English. Thereafter my dad excelled in Math but didn't break any records in his other subjects. He loved extracurriculars and took part in several sports, including field hockey, cricket and football. He even captained the school team in the latter. But he always felt out of place in an institution designed for rich kids. My grandfather was not very wealthy and had very little education, having left school at twelve. It was a real struggle to pay the exorbitant school tuition fees, but my grandfather was determined to provide as good an education as possible for my dad, however extreme the financial burdens it imposed on the family.

My dad's two sisters, one older and one younger, grew up and went to school in Erode itself. But since the death of my grandfather's elder brother, and later his sister-in-law, my grandfather had taken in his brother's family and was providing for all of them, as well as for his short-tempered mother (my great-grandmother). A total of eleven! Moreover, my grandfather was heavily involved in domestic politics and was a member of the ruling Congress Party's branch in Erode. At one point, he was even President of the Erode branch. And though it seems incredulous, given the corruption that pervades modern Indian politics, my grandfather used to invest his own money into the party. He was a Gandhian, wearing only Khadi (handwoven cloth) until his death and a no-nonsense, though short-tempered politician.

Anyways, I digress. Despite my dad's engineering ambitions, my grandfather wanted my dad to become a doctor. There were no doctors in our family. After all, we came from a caste of weavers. If any members had not become weavers they had at least found work elsewhere in the textile industry. My grandfather wanted more for his son, a whole lot more. And even though it was not his first-choice, my dad recognised the sacrifices his family had made for him and agreed to study medicine. Interestingly however, while waiting to hear the results of his med school application, my dad moved to the nearby city of Coimbatore and started on an Engineering course. Think of it as an insurance policy. A month later and thanks in no small part to the caste-based quota system, my dad was admitted into Chennai's Stanley Medical College. He was not even sixteen! My dad spent the better part of the next decade in Chennai studying medicine.

And in his spare time he played a lot of field hockey, first representing his medical college, then the University of Madras and eventually captaining both. He was a very talented hockey player and won competitions all over India. Even today you can see his name on Stanley Medical College's Hall of Fame board, for his achievements in hockey. Indeed, one of the players who played under his captaincy, Vasudevan Bhaskaran, went on to captain India to the Gold Medal at the 1980 Moscow Olympics and later became its national coach.

But we return to London. It was the morning of Thursday 27 March 1980. My dad had just entered Heathrow Airport and made his way to the immigration counter. Over the course of the next hour, two short exchanges would leave an unforgettable impression of what life would be like in this new country. The white immigration officer asked to see my dad's PLAB test documents but he didn't have them on him because he thought it would be safer to store them in his suitcase. Upon conveying this information, the officer asked my dad rather innocuously if he had a return ticket, to which my dad replied equally innocently in the affirmative. "Good", said the officer while adding rather curtly, "you made need to use it". My dad was rather startled, though the officer asked my dad to leave his travel documents with him and was allowed to go down to the baggage carousels and collect the necessary documents. Worried sick as he was for the suitcase to arrive intact, my dad left the contents of it wide open while scurrying back to the immigration counter with the crucial documents.

Luckily, there were no further problems and my dad made a successful entry into the UK. And incredibly, nobody had stolen anything from his wide-open suitcase by the time he got back to it. The next challenge was to figure out how to make his way to the Underground and his final destination, Gordon Hill Station. Upon taking a seat in the Piccadilly Line carriage, a white passenger sitting across from my dad asked him if he was new to the country. (An Asian lad with a thick accent, two big suitcases, bell-bottoms and long side-burns in early 1980? He certainly wasn't from these parts!) My dad said yes and unexpectedly received a reply he'll never forget alongwith an outstretched hand, "How lovely, welcome to the United Kingdom". And there it was, in the space of an hour, two sides of the British coin.

The friendly passenger convinced my dad that not all Brits were like the immigration officer. But the journey was not yet over. For some reason, the college mate with whom my dad was to be staying, gave instructions to switch from the Underground to the Suburban Rail network at Finsbury Park, instead of staying on the Piccadilly Line, all the way to its penultimate station, Oakwood. So poor dad was forced to reorient himself at Finsbury Park, while carrying his two heavy suitcases up a fairly steep spiral staircase. Another unforgettable moment. He eventually arrived at Gordon Hill Station and was picked up by his mate who lived nearby. That afternoon my dad experienced his first English pub at The Robin Hood, near Chase Farm Hospital. He studied hard for his PLAB test, sat it a couple weeks after his arrival and soon started work at Chase Farm Hospital. Over the course of the next seven years, my dad fell in love with everything British.

But his life in England began not just in London, but in Enfield where I have been living since my move here in 2007. In fact, the nearest station to my flat is Gordon Hill and I travel through Finsbury Park's spiral staircases almost on a daily basis, continually reliving my dad's first brush with this amazing city. My dad loves retelling the tale of his first trip to London and I hope you enjoyed it too! It seems surreal that the only reason my dad came to Enfield was because the friend he stayed with was living and working here. That friend has moved on, but not only did my dad end up working in a few hospitals in the area, but we bought a flat here before moving to Oman (in fact the one I'm living and typing this from right now!), my sister was born in the hospital just down the road and where my dad first worked, and thirty years later, I'm keeping the Ramanathan flame burning in the same area. May there be many more years of the Ramanathans in Enfield!
mcgillianaire: (Taj Mahal)


My sister's best friends at her uni registered a star in my mum's name as a Christmas gift. It doesn't get much better than that!
mcgillianaire: (Geetopadesham)
'THEN a woman said, Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow. And
he answered: Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the
selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes
filled with your tears.
And how else can it be? The deeper that sorrow carves into
your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was
burned in the potter’s oven? And is not the lute that soothes
your spirit the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are Joyous, look deep into your heart and you
shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is
giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful, look again in your heart, and you
shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been
your delight.
Some of you say, ‘Joy is greater than sorrow,’ and others say,
‘Nay, sorrow is the greater.’ But I say unto you, they are inseparable.'


-----

A good friend of mine sent me this. It comforts them when life's been painful. I should get a copy of the book. My sister has one.
mcgillianaire: (India Flag)
"He's right - ignore it. Mr. Gandhi will find it's going to take a great deal more than a pinch of salt to bring down the British Empire."
~ Lord Irwin in Gandhi (the film), referring to the Dandi Salt March in 1930 ~
mcgillianaire: (Scale of Justice)
I've been away revising for the biggest exams in my life. Less than seven months ago I began the equivalent of a law degree, and in just over a month's time it will all be over. The stress levels are gradually peaking and I'm going insane. I don't know how I'll remember all the case names, legal principles and definitions for the seven exams. I wish there was a shortcut. Life has been made much easier with mum taking over all non-revision activities, but it feels nothing short of a hell in my head. Bad dreams every night and the tension rising by the day. I hope I pass them all. A lot rests on it. I wish I'd spent more time learning the cases better as the year went along. Oh well, too late to worry about it now. Fourteen days to the rest of my life! Back on 27 May. Hope you're all well. :)
mcgillianaire: (London Weather Forecast)
PROs: Liverpool score 13 goals against Real Madrid, Manchester United and Aston Villa. Manchester United then lose to Fulham and 
      have a total of three players sent off in a week. Everton and Chelsea lose crucial games to Portsmouth and Spurs. Rafa 
      Benitez ends weeks of speculation by signing a new contract and the owners promise a summer transfer kitty of 30million 
      squid. SRT scores his 42nd Test century, his 3rd in 4 matches, as India cruise to a 10-wicket victory and their first in 
      New Zealand for over 30 years. London experiences sunny weather for a whole week without a break. And finally the icing 
      on the cake, my mum prebooks her ticket to London by three weeks.

CONs: I lose my wallet, camera and phone. Stress levels rise as final exams loom. Liverpool draw Chelsea and play @ Anfield 1st.

Yay!

Dec. 22nd, 2008 08:10 am
mcgillianaire: (Default)
Thanks to a snowstorm in Boston, my sis will miss her connecting flight to Muscat, meaning I will get to see her for a few hours before BA redirect her thru Dubai later this evening. I thought I wouldn't see my family till atleast May, but Mother Nature thankfully intervened.
mcgillianaire: (Baasha in Japanese!)
I don't but my sister does. Or at least she's learning it this semester at university. She sent me a video of her mini-autobiography in ASL and I'm not surprised she got 96% for it. It's bloody amazing. It took me a few reruns to make the connection between the text and her actions, but after a while I got the hang of it. It's really fascinating. I'll ask her permission to YouTube it for all of you to enjoy. You can tell she's enjoyed the course, both through her crisp confident actions and her body language. All she needs now is another semester's worth of classes after Christmas, and then she can go to India next summer and impart her teachings to our impoverished mute and/or deaf relatives.
mcgillianaire: (Taj Mahal)
I didn't sleep well last night. I kept having bad dreams and eventually gave up trying to fall asleep properly. So I got up and looked up the photos my mum sent me of their trip to Mumbai. Five of the ten photos have geographical relevance to this week's tragic events:


Sis standing in front of the iconic Taj Mahal Palace Hotel, built in 1903 by Jamsetji Tata.

Four more pics under the cut )
mcgillianaire: (India Flag)
There used to be a time when I was embarrassed by my Indianness. All through elementary and middle school, all things Indian were treated with scant respect by my peers. The situation improved in high school but more often than not, all things Indian evoked negativity. Then I went to uni and things started to change dramatically. India was no longer just a pariah state. Some people had actually been to India. It seems incredulous to believe that hardly anyone I went to school with in Oman had ever visited India. Mumbai was less than a two hour flight from Muscat! In fact if I'm not mistaken, barely a handful of the kids I went to school with from the age of 6 to 18 (I did my entire schooling in one institution) had been to India. In one case, the mum of one of my best friend's in my graduating year (2001/2) was enamored by Indian culture, but refused to visit because it was too dirty and was worried that she would contract some incurable disease. She didn't exactly say the bit about the incurable disease but she might as well have done. It's probably how a lot of other parents felt.

It's incredible how people's perceptions and attitudes can change in such a short period. Almost everybody I meet now, especially since my move to London, have nothing but good things to say about India. The first thing everybody says without fail when I tell them about my Indian heritage is whether they have visited or that they would love to visit India. The ones who've visited it have been to places even my parents haven't been to and they've both traveled it extensively. (My mum's even had the opportunity to visit Kashmir back in the 70s). The ones who haven't visited know somebody really well or are related to someone who has been to India. Perhaps it might just be a British adolescence thing? Whether it is or not is immaterial. India is just as dirty now as it was five or ten years ago, but by simply visiting it people's perceptions and attitudes towards and of it have completely changed.

Other changes have also been taking place. The Indian economy has entered the news for usually the right reasons in the last few years. Bollywood is going global. Curry is this land's favourite dish. Indian sportspersons are reemerging on the scene in a world driven by professionalism. The diaspora is 20+ million strong and ever-growing. A lot of the diaspora communities are among the most successful in their adopted country. Some of the world's richest people are Indian. We've just launched our first-ever lunar exploration. The list goes on. None of these changes however should take away from the depressing fact that there are more poor people in India than any other country in the world. I can't remember the exact figures but I think it's something like half the world's poorest people live in India. It doesn't help that we are less than twenty years from becoming the world's most populous country, but it is still the world's worst economic statistic.

Perhaps I'm just getting older and the people I meet are more mature than my peers in school, but I feel like there has also been a drastic change in perceptions towards India in the last six years. Even when I joined uni just over six years ago, the negativity still permeated to the surface more than the positivity that has now taken over. There are probably more problems in India now than ever before (what with the situations in Kashmir, Assam & Orissa deteriorating by the day, and not to mention Naxalism, the Thackeray thugs making a mockery of the rule of law and so on). All these problems are taking place as more people visit India than ever before. It's an interesting trend but one that I am both happy and concerned about. I'm happy because I'm more proud than ever to mention my Indian heritage. I'm concerned because violence is on the upswing in India and that could affect my friends and family. The last thing I want is an increase in the violence directed at foreigners and tourists. I don't want people to stop visiting India because it's one of those countries which you really need to add to your social CV. And I am saying that because I am from India. It's organised chaos personified. It's vibrant. It's colourful. It's filthy. It's overcrowded. It's a beautiful country. If you ever imagined what it would be like for a functioning society to occupy an abandoned block of flats stripped down to its bare essentials with exposed walls, pipes, wires etc and went about their daily business like everything was normal, with piecemeal improvements made from time-to-time, then that's India for you. It's one big functioning democratic mobocracy.

Anyways, I'm not sure where I wanted to take this post but just wanted to get some thoughts off my mind. Amidst everything I've written above, the point I wanted to finally make was that recently I met someone who had visited India and loved all things Indian. Somewhere during our conversation he stopped me and said something which nobody has ever said to me before: "You should be proud to be Indian. It's such a great country." I was like eh?! If only he knew what I really felt about India... and after everything I've experienced in life, if also he only knew exactly how I felt to hear somebody telling me just that. :) [The song below inspired this post. Brought back some memories...]
mcgillianaire: (Geetopadesham)
My cousin who lives in Nova Scotia just gave birth to a baby boy. I now have 3 first cousins once removed and another's on the way! :)
mcgillianaire: (Taj Mahal)


Today is when the world changed 7 years ago. It is also my great-grandad's 3rd death anniversary. If alive, he'd be 99-going-on-100!
mcgillianaire: (Team GB @ 2008 Beijing Olympics)
Since my dad's arrival, Usain Bolt has destroyed the world record in the 100m. It was a new experience to listen to his victory on live radio commentary (this related article is interesting). Team GB have also moved within three golds of its greatest Olympic haul since the fifty-six in London in 1908. India have been thrashed by Sri Lanka in the first ODI and Liverpool scrambled to a one-nil victory over Sunderland in the first game of the season with a Fernando Torres special. It's matches like these we failed to win last season.

My family and I have visited Sutton Coldfied in Birmingham, Kettering in Northamptonshire and bought lots of new things for the flat: a three-piece sofabed suite, a dining table with chairs, a tv stand, a corner computer table, a persian rug, stuff for the kitchen, bathroom and a coffee table. It's been fun doing some DIY with the dad. We've decided not to change the carpet because it's too expensive. We spent a few hours in IKEA today and I wished I had more money. We've visited two Tamil Hindu temples, including one for the first time and it's the nearest temple to where I live. We've met up with some of my dad's best family friends, eaten lots of incredible home-cooked food and watched a lot of the Olympics. But best of all, we opened the loft to our flat this morning and took down a bunch of boxes that hadn't been touched since my family (minus my sis who hadn't been born yet) left for Oman in August 1987. It was so cool to see stuff that hadn't seen the light of day for more than twenty years: clothes I wore when I was a baby, the cutlery we used in the early 80s and wall decorations kept perfectly intact. My sis fell in love with one pair of my mum's boots and it fits perfectly. She's taking it with her to uni in America. There's even a copy of The Daily Telegraph from 13 July 1987 which I've kept aside to read tomorrow. Simbly superb.

In the next few days we're visiting another Tamil Hindu temple, going for a buffet breakfast at London's best Tamil restaurant, Chennai Dosa, watch Sholay (because my sister's never seen it before), get the carpets shampooed, introduce my family to one of my best friend's in a Central London beer garden and show my family around my workplace and law school. Exactly one month to go!!

After my dad leaves (on Friday), I'm taking my sister to her first-ever professional football match at Craven Cottage, where Fulham host Arsenal. We've managed to put together a crew of thirteen friends to watch the Premier League game. Should be a great experience. We're also planning an evening in the West End (any recommendations?) and a cinema trip (Mamma Mia - yeh, yeh I know it's a girlie movie, but I like ABBA and musicals). My sis also wants me to give her a walking and talking tour of Central London. I love such walks...

I leave you with a picture seen on a virtually unknown side road in North London. Happy 62nd Independence Day! JAI HIND!

mcgillianaire: (Cricket Stumps)
Last year, [livejournal.com profile] pappubahry put his PhD in Physics on hold and flew halfway across the world (for the first time in half-a-decade) to teach English in the middle-of-nowhere France. Barely weeks into his gap year sojourn, he decided to put his love for cricket and numbers into motion by combining them into a new blog dedicated to unconventional cricketing statistic analysis. You might have heard of sabermetrics. Pappubahry is a pioneer in its cricketing equivalent. And to prove that point, there's an article in today's Guardian about his new-found obsession, (potential future career?) and how it is revolutionizing the sport just as Washington Redskin cheerleaders are doing their part in remote corners of the Indian subcontinent. The article also includes some intriguing stuff from John Buchanan, the former Australian cricket coach. They're mentioned in the same breath. If you didn't know about him before, you will now. Well done mate, but a word of caution. Stop drinking from the Sarthe. It's doing weird things to your head. You've got a PhD to finish and a Nobel Prize to win! :)
mcgillianaire: (Bedouin in Desert)
An article about my dad in today's Oman Observer. Unfortunately the link will expire tomorrow so I've copied the article under the cut.

The Article )
mcgillianaire: (Bedouin in Desert)
The Oman Tribune newspaper carried a feature about the work my dad has done for sports medicine in Oman over the past 20 years. Rather disappointingly they didn't upload the actual article onto the newspaper's website, but my mum scanned and sent it to me this morning. I've typed it up and pasted it below. I'm proud to be his son. :) Enjoy and maybe you'll learn something new/useful!

Doctor brings pain to its knees
Chance brought Ramanathan to Oman, his skill keeps him here for two decades, writes Jeta Pillai

It was a chance meeting in England in 1987, with the then head of orthopaedics in Oman that brought Dr EBS Ramanathan to the Sultanate. Ramanathan went on to become the pioneer of sports medicine in the country. He recalls: "On my way back to India from England, I met the then head of orthopaedics, Wahid Al Kharusi, who asked me to come to Oman and then move on to India. But two years have become 20, because this is a good place and very challenging. We had to start sports medicine from scratch. I work mainly in Khoula Hospital, where we have the National Trauma Centre and the National Sports Clinic. Today it is a very busy department."



Read more... )

9/11

Sep. 11th, 2007 07:25 am
mcgillianaire: (Default)
A day Americans will never forget, and a day I won't forget either: it's my great grandfather's 2nd death anniversary. May they all RIP.

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Dad left home a few minutes ago. Next guest arrives later this morning. I feel like I own a B&B. Who wants to visit next? :)

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